It is a unique and funny story how I became a Phi Brother. Because, I really didn’t intend to pledge Phi, I got Drafted. You see, I was very skeptical of fraternities. I said to myself what can they offer me? Besides, they party too much and I really don’t have the time. Then one fateful day in the fall of 1975, I was hanging out in the student center with my buddy (Charlie) from high school and few other people we met during orientation. We were keeping to ourselves like many typical freshmen. Then a couple Phi Brothers came over to our table. One of them (Fred Tisch) turned out to a friend of the family of one of the guys (Ralph Naples) I was sitting with. They started talking to him and the next thing I heard was Fred saying Ralph you are joining the Frat. All Ralph could get out was but…but…(poor guy didn’t have a chance). The rest of us thought it was pretty funny. Till the other Phi Brother (Joe Festa) turned to me and Charlie and said you guys too follow me. Well, let me just say that you do not say no to Fred especially when he has “Priscilla” at his side. The rest as they say is history.

Seriously, joining Phi was the best thing that I have done (besides marrying my wonderful wife and have a lovely daughter) in my life. The Fraternity has taught me a lot about friendship, responsibility and commitment. I have also made life-long friends. Sharing life experiences (some good and some bad). Watching each others family and children grow up through the years. Those memories I will cherish for the rest of my life.

Tommy Lee
Alpha Psi 1975